Leslie Morgan Steiner was in “crazy love” — that is, madly in love with a man who routinely abused her and threatened her life. Steiner tells the dark story of her relationship, correcting misconceptions many people hold about victims of domestic violence, and explaining how we can all help break the silence. (Filmed at TEDxRainier.)
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OMG this is my life.
When my Ex really wanted to hurt me he would beat my dog. One night we were at a party, he was drunk, he verbally attacked me, I said I'd better go home so he could enjoy the rest of the party, and he agreed. I went home, grabbed my dog, some clothes and money, and left for good.
He was a successful man who didn't feel threatened by his wife's success . So they must just love the power of hurting someone. Maybe their parents abused their power when they were young? I would love to know why they do it. The common thread that I have found is that they're just not good people to begin with, they: lie, steal , etc. .
Lots of abusers help each other. It never ends for some women.
Armen Happen to men? 2 men
Thank you for sharing your story. Captivating!!!
She stays because she still feels caught up in it even years later out of it, meaning it is hard to see life without the trauma by experiences. Feeling the weight and intensity of the chaos and triggers and flashbacks makes you feel that when away from it that it is still occurring so it is not clear to see who the self is or what safety feels like.
Yo viví 5 años en una relación abusiva y no podía irme . Hasta que Dios me abrió la puerta salí corriendo aunque era lógico que el estaría con otra estúpida a quien manipulara y maltratara hasta que desaparezca su autoestima.
I been in a few of these bad relationships. I went on the run from one because he was stalking me. Protective Order is just paper. The cops let him out without telling me. I was 22 with a very good job. I stayed in a shelter until it was safe and he was out of state on the run from court. My case is different because l am a no nonsense financially stable woman. Hit me and l am gone. Had three relationships like that. I had the means to protect myself and go. I never depend on a man. I threw them away like the garbage they were when they hit me!
FOOLISH IS A BAD SIN.
“Abuse thrives only in silence”
Her fault she let him abuse her. She likes it. I've stood up for a beaten woman. Only to be mocked by her and her abusive boyfriend for sticking up for her. If any guy reads this and thinks I'll save this girl I know. Don't instead distance yourself and don't get involved. Trust me.
I so wish I had seen this before I had my own story. Thank you!
These types of abusers, I believe have low self esteem. Also probably know no different how to cope otherwise, because of ingrained in psyche?
It makes my blood boil when I hear of a man attacking a woman! A man who hits a woman is not a man! A man can get as angry as he wants, but he should be able to control it, or else he's asking for trouble!
Had me in tears. What a touching talk.
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She went ahead and married a man who put her in a chokehold 5 days before her wedding. He gave her a crystal clear message that he was an abuser, maybe kill her. And she stayed. She should have left right then and there… But, she made a choice as well as excuses. Women who stay with abusive partners damage the children and even cause their children to be abused and even murdered. I have zero F sympathy. And if you stay…. well you made a stupid choice.
Namaste everyone
I wasn’t physically abused but I was emotionally manipulated. For years -and I didn’t know it… it’s called covert narcissism. But unlike this woman who had physical marks on her body, I had damage to my soul. And no one believes me.
I left an abusive relationship. I now have zero tolerance of abuse, that's how much I changed.
My son is with a very abusive women .It’s not always the man .Women can be very abusive .
When you get to the point where you start telling people, many will reject your version because you "victimize" yourself and problems in relationships "always have 2 sides"…so on top of everything, when you finally find the courage to speak up, you get blamed for blaming him!
Or they look at you poor little thing that is going through such tough times, with PITY.
That is the worst.
One way or another, the message is no one will really understand you or care about your suffering.
This is what makes it so terribly hard to start from scratch. You are completely alone and have to make peace with your past…alone.
Yes, it’s real! Just left a 48 year marriage…far too late. Took my purse only and two years from then finally stand alone and happier. Subsidized housing for a senior helped a lot. When I left, he put out a smear campaign to my only child, family and past friends saying I’m unstable and caused many problems. What could I prove being silent so long?, Still in grief, but I’m safe, breathing and hopeful ;it’s very okay to be alone. Peaceful,no fear. It takes practice but it’s worth that kind of work, day by day affirming what’s real, who you really are, and letting it all go. You’ll find the path you are to be on, just believe it. You are valuable, a unique human being with a purpose. Please hang in there! Bless you greatly for strength and love. Sincerely, Robin
“Why does he stay when she’s violent towards him?”